Top 3 Reasons Why Most Millennial Titas Are Still Single (2 of 2)

 

guestPost from Thinkerbell

“The best thing is to be respected, the next, is to be loved; 

it is bad to be hated, but still worse to be despised.” - Chinese Proverbs

(read the first part here)

Pangatlo, is a side effect of the second reason. Because I've denied vulnerability, I'm struggling to connect emotionally. 

According to experts, this is one of the most important factors in any successful romantic relationship --- connecting emotionally (deeper level). 

• Or pwede din, I cannot connect emotionally because we simply don't vibe. 
• Pwede din I haven't really met that single person whom I can connect effortlessly. 
• On the bottom of this, I know I have difficulty in deep  emotional connection, and I have low emotional tolerance.

There are many other reasons why our Titas are still single. These are just a few reasons, speaking from my own experience. Others have their own, or, maybe some, can relate to this three reasons stated earlier.

These personal realizations does not guarantee for me to have a successful romantic relationship now, nonetheless, I am at least aware, unmasking my true self, opening-up more. And thus, continuously doing my homework on the how-to. 

Is it too late? The pressure of time is actually bothersome. However, committing at a later time is more agreeable than having one in the earlier years which surely would have been in vain.

To sum it up, it takes openness to fully understand ourselves before we can understand others. 

It takes willingness in us to own ourselves so we can give it to others. We've read it in many pages, and it takes experience to totally understand the meaning of it. 

• So just keep it up. 
• Hang in there self. 
• We're on our way Titas. 
• Be patient. 
• Pray for the one, and work on being the one.

~ Thinkerbelle ®

blog.billymacdeus.com/

Top 3 Reasons Why Most Millennial Titas Are Still Single (1 of 2)

~ guestPost from Thinkerbelle

As rain breaks through an ill-thatched house, passion breaks through an unreflecting mind [Dhammapada]

Being a single Tita is now becoming a "thing". Tita meaning, you're middle aged adult behaving like the typical middle class Titas. 

Unlike in the 80's or 90's, reaching that age unmarried is now more common. Was it their personal choice? Is it possible to have emotional mutation due to environmental issues? Or maybe it's the side effect of social developments? Be the judge...

• Bakit nga ba sila may "The One, tapos ako wala? 
• Bakit sila me jowa, ako wala? 
• Bakit ang romantic relationship ay isang malaking hiwaga para sa akin? 
• Bakit ang ilap ng pagibig sa akin while all along I believed in the purest form of love? 
• Bakit nga ba? 

Hindi naman daw ako panget lolssss! And I felt normal naman, like I laugh when they laugh, and I cry when they cry, (if that's enough basis of being normal). Baka something is wrong with me? Hmmnn, re-phrasing it so as not to demean ourselves, what is it that I don't understand?

So yun na nga mars, salamat sa almost a month na ecq nung 2019. Marami itong negative effects sa karamihan especially its economic impacts. On the other hand, looking at the silver lining, this still time has given chance for people to really soul-search. Sa maraming kababaihan na kagaya ko, very career-oriented, kinain na ng araw- araw na kaabalahan ang buhay, ang me-time para sa pagmumunimuni ay isang luxury that we can't afford, or maybe we simply put aside due to it's least importance. And that community quarantine has put a stop to everything, forcing us to do something out of nothingness.

So bakit nga ba tita wala kang jowa? Eto na nga. 

Una, hindi ko priority, kasi hindi ko masyadong tanggap na kailangan ko. Sa pakiramdam ko, kaya ko naman kahit wala akong jowa. 

• "Darating man sila.., hindi kung hindi". 
• That "strong independent woman" thought, over-ruling my life. 
• Adding the fact na maraming pakboys lolssss! Not all, naman po. Peace guys! In simple terms, I don't live with the sense of interdependence, and not because I have a negative conditioning about men. 
• Interdependence, in the sense... na most of the time, I can manage all by myself, out of free will, and out of maturity - lifted from the basis of sustaining that image and attitude -- strong-willed-independent-woman.

Pangalawa, I've denied myself of vulnerability -- it was rooted from childhood. Something that I used to protect myself. A defense mechanism. I was so used to it that I simply ignore my emotional side. 

• It's easier to feel numb. 
• Less drama. Less complications. 
• Things are easier to understand and manage using my brain. 
  
  
  

(the downsides of not confronting self-vulnerability)

• Not acknowledging my vulnerability is tantamount to denying my true sense of self. 
• This is one of the keys to understanding others as well. 
• So I am missing this part. I have difficulty in understanding others. 
• Yung lagi na lang akong manhid. Lagi kong late ma-realize na may pahiwatig pala si koya. I've missed a lot of chances I guessed? Baka I already had my TOTGA and too late now. (TOTGA, in case you didn't know is "the one that got away")

Pangatlo (read the next post to be published on Sunday, March 6, 2022)

~ blog.billymacdeus.com/ 

7 Uncensored Truths You Need To Start Doing

 

Ignore: Lust, envy, news, opinion, status

Find: Love, Effort, Clarity, Truth, Freedom

Emotional detachment gives you more clarity.

That's why you make better decisions when you care less.

It gets harder to focus on your ambitions if your finances are messy.

Get them in order first!

Always assume that people change, not necessarily the way you would like them to.

In the end, you will attract who you deserve.

More stimulation will not bring you happiness.

Happiness is found in loving relationships, meaningful work, and peace within your own mind.

Travel, talk to people, love, make mistakes, overcome heartbreaks, self-reflect

You will eventually "create" yourself.

Once you've "made it", keep a low profile.

Very few people are happy for you.

Others just want to take advantage of you.

~ lifted from @LiveYourImpossible

I Love Trees

To say I love trees

is already to say too little—

for how does one measure devotion

to something that teaches you how to stand

without applause?

I love trees is an understatement, of course i will always love you --

You are silence itself,

rooted and unflinching

in the middle of the night,

when the world holds its breath

and even the moon seems unsure.

You do not explain the darkness—

you simply remain within it.

Silent as a dead in the middle of the night -- you can be that!

You are also movement,

alive with a thousand green tongues,

leaves swaying like whispered secrets

caught between wind and will.

You rustle, yes—

but never in haste,

never in anger.

Even your noise is gentle,

as if the air has learned manners

just to pass through you.

Vibrant as your leaves get to sway by the winds, rustling and yet, gentle -- you can be that!

You are the deaf-mute witness

to our small human dramas—

arguments that flare and fade,

laughter that spills then disappears,

promises made too quickly on street corners.

You say nothing,

yet you remember everything.

Your rings hold time

the way oceans hold salt.

Deaf-mute witness, to what is happening around the block -- you can be that! 

You offer shade

without keeping score.

No complaint, no ledger,

no demand for thanks.

You cool tired foreheads,

shelter quiet conversations,

and allow children to believe

the world is kinder than it is.

Provider of shades, without complaining -- you can be that!

Even when cut,

you give.

Even when burned,

you leave warmth behind.

Even when fallen,

you teach us gravity—

how everything that rises

must one day rest.

A refuge of comfort, when the sun scorches the skin, willingly soothes -- you can be that!

I love you not because you are beautiful

(though you are),

but because you endure.

Because you grow slowly,

because you trust the earth,

because you do not hurry us.

To love trees

is to love patience,

is to believe that staying

can be an act of courage.

And so—

yes.

I will always love you.

Thank you, is all i can say...

dearest Tree.

_

billymacdeus ®poetry

Why You Have To Grab Aquaflask And Bring It With You Always?

 

What is Aquaflask? - for me it's the cousin of Clean Canteen. Ha ha ha!

Just look at the pic and you'll know instantly, it's a thermal flask - for water or juices; with shining shimmering splendid variety of colors.

Where to get or buy? - it's currently at a discounted price since last year, you have to hurry to the malls ; normally Aquaflask sales teams are located in the center isles, or among booths of the mall or message me in my email posted on this blog, if you want to order directly from me. 

What are the benefits of having an aquaflask? - it makes you love water, more; over and over again. just 2 having my thermal flask and i am already achieving my water intake allocation before the day ends. 

I'm a stone-former; a urologist told me to drink 2-3 Liters of water a day; a great feeling - Aquaflask is helping me attain this goal.

Get the 32 Oz (almost equivalent to 1 liter capacity) - it's pretty handy, not big, not small.

So, what is the significance of drinking H20? ... read these 13 major benefits collated by Medical News Today.

1. It lubricates the joints

2. It forms saliva and mucus

3. It delivers oxygen throughout the body

4. It boosts skin health and beauty

5. It cushions the brain, spinal cord, and other sensitive tissues

6. It regulates body temperature

7. It flushes body wastes

8. It helps maintain blood pressure

9. It makes minerals and nutrients accessible

10. It prevents kidney damage

11. Boosts performance during exercise

12. Promotes weight loss (especially warm water)

13. It helps reduce hang-over.

Last tip? - buy the boots, it'll help repel any dents or scratches from sudden drop or bumps. The boots are the base covers made of silicon.

Last Last Tip? - I used my 64 Oz as an harinola. Yeah!, my 2nd floor has no CR and am lazy going down during the night, so i'm shooting it in on the marine blue thermal flask - easy to clean! LOL!

~billymac ®shortStories