Saturday, February 10, 2024

36 Questions To Ask Someone If You Want To Fall In Love (Or To Strengthen Your Romantic Relationship)

Hanap mo ba ay exciting na game of love ngayong February together with your partner / friend / sinisinta / nililigawan / wifey / husband / S.O. / ka-M.U. / close friend, or ano pa mang label yan which involves romantic feelings?

Eto po, ang 36 Questions To Ask Your Partner (if you want to fall in-love or strengthen your relationship) leading to a deeper understanding for both of yourselves.

(This game was lifted and popularized by The New York Times... link at the end for the magazine's write-up)


step 1... Get yourself and your partner in a comfortable place or location with less or no distractions.

step 2 ... Turn your gadgets into silent mode/turned-off notifications.

step 3 ... Prepare something to drink or eat because the Q&A takes around an hour.

step 4... Be patient, be a good listener, open your heart to each other and be honest.

step 5 ... Read the first question aloud, then both you and your partner will answer alternately. Listen and understand.

step 6 ...  The 2nd question will be read this time by your partner, and both of you will answer again alternately.

step 7... Do the rest of the questions similar to how you and your partner have done on steps 5 and 6.



1. If you could invite anyone in the world to dinner, who would it be? Why?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a "perfect day" for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else? Describe.

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30 year old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch of how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common?

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take 4 minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much as detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling...."

26. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom i could share..."

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

29. Share your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself? Describe.

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening, with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Congratulations! you've answered all the questions.

Last piece of Instruction (the hard part): you have to look into your partner's eyes for four minutes.

In silence.

It's hard, and you'll squirm, but you'll learn an incredible amount.

Good Luck!



Here's the article from The New York Times - To Fall In Love With Anyone Do This