Top 3 Reasons Why Most Millennial Titas Are Still Single (1 of 2)

~ guestPost from Thinkerbelle

As rain breaks through an ill-thatched house, passion breaks through an unreflecting mind [Dhammapada]

Being a single Tita is now becoming a "thing". Tita meaning, you're middle aged adult behaving like the typical middle class Titas. 

Unlike in the 80's or 90's, reaching that age unmarried is now more common. Was it their personal choice? Is it possible to have emotional mutation due to environmental issues? Or maybe it's the side effect of social developments? Be the judge...

• Bakit nga ba sila may "The One, tapos ako wala? 
• Bakit sila me jowa, ako wala? 
• Bakit ang romantic relationship ay isang malaking hiwaga para sa akin? 
• Bakit ang ilap ng pagibig sa akin while all along I believed in the purest form of love? 
• Bakit nga ba? 

Hindi naman daw ako panget lolssss! And I felt normal naman, like I laugh when they laugh, and I cry when they cry, (if that's enough basis of being normal). Baka something is wrong with me? Hmmnn, re-phrasing it so as not to demean ourselves, what is it that I don't understand?

So yun na nga mars, salamat sa almost a month na ecq nung 2019. Marami itong negative effects sa karamihan especially its economic impacts. On the other hand, looking at the silver lining, this still time has given chance for people to really soul-search. Sa maraming kababaihan na kagaya ko, very career-oriented, kinain na ng araw- araw na kaabalahan ang buhay, ang me-time para sa pagmumunimuni ay isang luxury that we can't afford, or maybe we simply put aside due to it's least importance. And that community quarantine has put a stop to everything, forcing us to do something out of nothingness.

So bakit nga ba tita wala kang jowa? Eto na nga. 

Una, hindi ko priority, kasi hindi ko masyadong tanggap na kailangan ko. Sa pakiramdam ko, kaya ko naman kahit wala akong jowa. 

• "Darating man sila.., hindi kung hindi". 
• That "strong independent woman" thought, over-ruling my life. 
• Adding the fact na maraming pakboys lolssss! Not all, naman po. Peace guys! In simple terms, I don't live with the sense of interdependence, and not because I have a negative conditioning about men. 
• Interdependence, in the sense... na most of the time, I can manage all by myself, out of free will, and out of maturity - lifted from the basis of sustaining that image and attitude -- strong-willed-independent-woman.

Pangalawa, I've denied myself of vulnerability -- it was rooted from childhood. Something that I used to protect myself. A defense mechanism. I was so used to it that I simply ignore my emotional side. 

• It's easier to feel numb. 
• Less drama. Less complications. 
• Things are easier to understand and manage using my brain. 
  
  
  

(the downsides of not confronting self-vulnerability)

• Not acknowledging my vulnerability is tantamount to denying my true sense of self. 
• This is one of the keys to understanding others as well. 
• So I am missing this part. I have difficulty in understanding others. 
• Yung lagi na lang akong manhid. Lagi kong late ma-realize na may pahiwatig pala si koya. I've missed a lot of chances I guessed? Baka I already had my TOTGA and too late now. (TOTGA, in case you didn't know is "the one that got away")

Pangatlo (read the next post to be published on Sunday, March 6, 2022)

~ blog.billymacdeus.com/ 

7 Uncensored Truths You Need To Start Doing

 

Ignore: Lust, envy, news, opinion, status

Find: Love, Effort, Clarity, Truth, Freedom

Emotional detachment gives you more clarity.

That's why you make better decisions when you care less.

It gets harder to focus on your ambitions if your finances are messy.

Get them in order first!

Always assume that people change, not necessarily the way you would like them to.

In the end, you will attract who you deserve.

More stimulation will not bring you happiness.

Happiness is found in loving relationships, meaningful work, and peace within your own mind.

Travel, talk to people, love, make mistakes, overcome heartbreaks, self-reflect

You will eventually "create" yourself.

Once you've "made it", keep a low profile.

Very few people are happy for you.

Others just want to take advantage of you.

~ lifted from @LiveYourImpossible

I Love Trees

To say I love trees

is already to say too little—

for how does one measure devotion

to something that teaches you how to stand

without applause?

I love trees is an understatement, of course i will always love you --

You are silence itself,

rooted and unflinching

in the middle of the night,

when the world holds its breath

and even the moon seems unsure.

You do not explain the darkness—

you simply remain within it.

Silent as a dead in the middle of the night -- you can be that!

You are also movement,

alive with a thousand green tongues,

leaves swaying like whispered secrets

caught between wind and will.

You rustle, yes—

but never in haste,

never in anger.

Even your noise is gentle,

as if the air has learned manners

just to pass through you.

Vibrant as your leaves get to sway by the winds, rustling and yet, gentle -- you can be that!

You are the deaf-mute witness

to our small human dramas—

arguments that flare and fade,

laughter that spills then disappears,

promises made too quickly on street corners.

You say nothing,

yet you remember everything.

Your rings hold time

the way oceans hold salt.

Deaf-mute witness, to what is happening around the block -- you can be that! 

You offer shade

without keeping score.

No complaint, no ledger,

no demand for thanks.

You cool tired foreheads,

shelter quiet conversations,

and allow children to believe

the world is kinder than it is.

Provider of shades, without complaining -- you can be that!

Even when cut,

you give.

Even when burned,

you leave warmth behind.

Even when fallen,

you teach us gravity—

how everything that rises

must one day rest.

A refuge of comfort, when the sun scorches the skin, willingly soothes -- you can be that!

I love you not because you are beautiful

(though you are),

but because you endure.

Because you grow slowly,

because you trust the earth,

because you do not hurry us.

To love trees

is to love patience,

is to believe that staying

can be an act of courage.

And so—

yes.

I will always love you.

Thank you, is all i can say...

dearest Tree.

_

billymacdeus ®poetry

Why You Have To Grab Aquaflask And Bring It With You Always?

 

What is Aquaflask? - for me it's the cousin of Clean Canteen. Ha ha ha!

Just look at the pic and you'll know instantly, it's a thermal flask - for water or juices; with shining shimmering splendid variety of colors.

Where to get or buy? - it's currently at a discounted price since last year, you have to hurry to the malls ; normally Aquaflask sales teams are located in the center isles, or among booths of the mall or message me in my email posted on this blog, if you want to order directly from me. 

What are the benefits of having an aquaflask? - it makes you love water, more; over and over again. just 2 having my thermal flask and i am already achieving my water intake allocation before the day ends. 

I'm a stone-former; a urologist told me to drink 2-3 Liters of water a day; a great feeling - Aquaflask is helping me attain this goal.

Get the 32 Oz (almost equivalent to 1 liter capacity) - it's pretty handy, not big, not small.

So, what is the significance of drinking H20? ... read these 13 major benefits collated by Medical News Today.

1. It lubricates the joints

2. It forms saliva and mucus

3. It delivers oxygen throughout the body

4. It boosts skin health and beauty

5. It cushions the brain, spinal cord, and other sensitive tissues

6. It regulates body temperature

7. It flushes body wastes

8. It helps maintain blood pressure

9. It makes minerals and nutrients accessible

10. It prevents kidney damage

11. Boosts performance during exercise

12. Promotes weight loss (especially warm water)

13. It helps reduce hang-over.

Last tip? - buy the boots, it'll help repel any dents or scratches from sudden drop or bumps. The boots are the base covers made of silicon.

Last Last Tip? - I used my 64 Oz as an harinola. Yeah!, my 2nd floor has no CR and am lazy going down during the night, so i'm shooting it in on the marine blue thermal flask - easy to clean! LOL!

~billymac ®shortStories

 

Yourself Alone, Is The Source Of Motivation

"if you continue to wait until you're ready, you'll be waiting for the rest of your life" 

~ steven barlett

I came across with an IG post somewhere along these lines, it's worth sharing.

 The cost of ambition:

- late nights, early mornings

- lots of associates, very few friends

- you will be single unless you are lucky enough to find someone who understands your lifestyle

- people will want you to do good, but never better than them

For these reasons, you will do many things along.

It's hard i know, it's difficult-yes, that's given. 

It's all in the mind: those thoughts, when chances are seemingly so small to succeed, and yet, if you crush those thoughts pulling down your ambitions, or your dreams; and replace it with the "push", you're on the right track because no one is going to do that, but you!

Pero siguro that is the hardest part to accept—that motivation is not something we stumble upon, but something we manufacture in isolation.

We spend so much time waiting for the right conditions. The right mood. The right sign. The right person to believe in us before we believe in ourselves. Subalit 'yung readiness na tinatawag, as the quote suggests, is often just a more polite name for fear. A delay disguised as prudence o pagiging "cautious mashado". A way of postponing discomfort while telling ourselves we are being responsible.

The truth is, most meaningful things begin without permission.

Ambition rarely arrives with reassurance. It arrives as restlessness. As dissatisfaction with the present. As the quiet feeling that something in your life is unfinished and calling for attention. And that call is usually answered alone.

Late nights are not romantic. They are silent. Early mornings are not heroic. They are heavy. The loneliness that comes with pursuing something uncertain does not feel noble in the moment—it feels isolating. There are fewer people to talk to, fewer places to belong. Even success, when it begins to appear, feels strangely empty without familiar faces to witness it.

This is the hidden cost of ambition: you grow, but not always together with the people you started with.

And yet, what choice is there? To wait for collective approval is to surrender agency. To depend on external motivation is to live reactively. Eventually, ma-rerealize natin na, no one will arrive to validate our hunger for more. No one will knock on our door and say, “It’s time for you to try.”

Ikaw... Tayo... lang ang makakapagsabi nun sa sarili mo..., natin.

The mind becomes the real battlefield. Not between talent and failure, but between persistence and self-doubt. Every day presents a choice: to indulge the voice that lists reasons to stop, or to cultivate the one that insists on movement, even without clarity.

The push, as you described it, is not loud. It does not feel like confidence. It feels like showing up without certainty. It feels like acting while afraid. It feels like continuing despite the absence of applause.

Motivation, in this sense, is not inspiration—it is discipline disguised as belief. And maybe that is what growing up actually looks like. Not finding the perfect reason to begin, but accepting that the beginning itself is the reason. Choosing to move before you feel ready. To act before you feel capable. To trust that momentum will follow effort, not the other way around.

Because at the end of the day, the most uncomfortable truth is also the most liberating one:

No one is coming to save you from hesitation. No one is coming to hand you certainty. No one is coming to live your potential for you. You either become the source of your own motivation—or you remain a spectator of your own life.

~ billymac ®shortstories