The Happiest People Are The Givers, Not The Takers

(updated March 31, 2025)

 
The Happiest People Are The Givers, Not The Takers.

Why?

Several studies have shown what constitute the trigger to release happy chemicals from the brain. One of which is the factor of seeing or perceiving someone happy.

It matters that when a person extends something by its virtue of generosity, driven by emotions to help and make the other party-- happy, it appears that, that same emotion is two-way in nature.

It gives back, that joyful feeling of fulfillment from the giver, creating a ripple effect like muscle memories growing further to nurture the character of being a giver and being a delighted person accomplishing that virtue.

Here are some 5 Samples of being a Giver:

The Jollibee Drive-thru Pay It Forward:

You’re rolling up to Jollibee, ready to grab your Chickenjoy and extra rice. You notice the guy behind you—a tired Grab driver who looks like he’s been on the road all day. Instead of just speeding off, you tell the cashier, “Bayaran ko na rin ‘yung order niya.”

Boom. One small act, one big smile. You drive away knowing you just made someone’s day a little easier. And let’s be real, that crispy, juicy Chickenjoy tastes even better when you know you shared the love.

The Merienda Hero:

It’s 3 PM. Energy is running low. The whole team looks pagod na pagod—staring at their screens like zombies. Instead of waiting for someone to complain, you grab some donuts and iced coffee for everyone.

No announcement. No flex. Just a simple, “Kain tayo, guys.” And just like that, you didn’t just bring food—you brought good vibes. Work’s easier when everyone’s got a little sugar rush and a reason to smile.

The Hoy Ang Ganda/Pogi Mo Compliment:

You ever get a random compliment that completely turned your day around? Imagine you’re at the mall, at the gym, or just walking down the street. You see someone with a solid fit, a fire haircut, or just good energy.

Say it. “Bro, ang astig ng haircut mo ah!” or “Sis, grabe, you’re glowing today!”—walang halong bola. You never know, that person might’ve needed that. And guess what? Giving out good energy bounces right back to you.

The Kamusta Culture:

Filipinos are known for being close-knit, but when was the last time you actually called your parents, your titas, or even your high school bestie just to say “Musta ka?”

No “Pahiram ng GCash” request, no agenda—just pure, genuine, “I was thinking about you.” Whether you're in LA or Laguna, that one message could turn someone’s whole week around. And when they reply, “Awww, salamat ha”—trust me, it feels good.

The Tropa That Never Lets Eat Someone Alone:

You see someone at the cafeteria, office pantry, or even a tita at a party sitting alone. Instead of scrolling on your phone and pretending not to notice, you say, “Uy, dito ka sumabay!”

In Filipino culture, eating is never just about the food—it’s about connection. And making sure no one eats alone? That’s a simple way to remind someone that they belong.

Another aspect why such behavior induces the happy hormone is because of its ability to widen the perception of the giver in to connectedness in things and its aftereffects of helping another human being.

The calm it brings to mind knowing that the other party will be in good hands after the act of generosity creates a flowing river of emotions that somehow enriches one of the basic characters of human nature-- kindness.

additional thoughts:

Somehow, back tracking in the paths of memory lane, the giver must have felt similar emptiness one way or another, on the situation of the receiving party. Which makes sense, to stop that feeling from resurfacing, by putting in action "to help" and therefore, realized through the acts of kindness and generosity.

~billymacdeus

Consistency At Its Finest

I am to write this, without further reservations, because it is but right and truthful. I feel that it needs to be aired-out digitally, or could be printed whenever pleased by anyone - who'd come to stumble this written piece.

So it's the year 2021 - - more than a year, since the outbreak of the COVID 19 Pandemic last year-March 2020. A lot has changed; as in a lot - more importantly on how people harness or sustain their spiritual needs.

Just as we eat and drink everyday, to nourish our physical bodies, so does our need to fulfill and feed our souls through the spiritual activities that we must abide by to, based on our faith, beliefs, or religion.

While most, if not all are scared, apprehensive and doubtful on how to perform religious obligations across the country - - (whereas you can't blame them, for safety purposes) there is quite a distinct organization that is fearless - as soon as the PH government approved for mass gatherings and religious activities (30% none the least), and that is, the Church of Christ (Iglesia Ni Cristo).

With all honesty, and without prejudice - despite me being part of this church, I do feel and say with conviction that the members are being taken cared off on their spiritual needs, properly and without haste.

The non-interruption of the House Worship Services across INC families are truly helpful - in a way, that could strengthen one's persistence to the everyday battles this journey of life has to offer.

I missed writing.

As i've said earlier - i'm going to write this thought-process - not to please someone from inside the Church or just so, for the sake of showing-off, or even for the sake of you-must-know-and-accept-this-truth-blah-blah, but because i wanted to express what my heart and eyes are seeing, in action, in the execution of the members of the Church of Christ, not only in the Philippines, but all throughout the world.

I shall be unwavering to narrate these first hand experiences - coming from yours truly.

On point... today commenced the yearly Holy Supper, that the church has been holding since its foundation (from Christ's era... and now to, this Christian era - re established in the Far East).

I am a living witness how the power of the Holy Spirit is within the Church, trickled down to each of the members congregating on this special occasion.

A time to be purified, a time to be washed with unclean-ness, a time for renewal, a time for the receiving of mercy and gifts of blessings from Him.

In order to gain the fortitude once more, to prepare thyself once more for the journey to come, until the end will come to last... there in the New Jerusalem - - a promised land for those, chosen ones.

~billymac

PS: According to elders and documentaries, the church endured two different world wars, and their worship services back then never stopped... It was always consistent, even now.

Be delighted! Be calmed - if you are reading this, and you are a member of the Church Of Christ - your election of the faith is true.

Seeing ur Addictions

 

“What we consider to be harmless indulgences can easily become full-blown addictions. We start with coffee in the morning, and soon enough we can’t start the day without it. We check our email because it’s part of our job, and soon enough we feel the phantom buzz of the phone in our pocket every few seconds. Soon enough, these harmless habits are running our lives.”

Excerpt From: Holiday, Ryan. “The Daily Stoic.” Apple Books. 

Pinipili mo ba ang kinababaliwan mo? Nasa tamang landas ba ito, o, ang iyong kalayaan ay nakataya na?
Mga katanungang, madaling sagutin sa pamamagitan lamang ng iyong sarili - katotohanang magpapalaya sa 'yo.

To quote an addict - "addiction is when we have lost freedom to abstain".

What are the next steps upon identifying and seeing these addictions? Take control and put clarity to your paths where your freedom is not at stake.

~ billymacdeus

INC Year-End Pasalamat 2020

 

Let's cut to the chase. 

Whilst the world is seemingly trying to envelope darkness and hopelessness for the year 2020, due to the multitude of indescribable and horrific experiences: calamities, mental health deterioration, pandemic, shootings, abuse, economic downfall, poverty among others; there is still light - a beacon of hope is there, and the constant, if not the unwavering faith of the Iglesia Ni Cristo members are felt and seen.

This fervent unison of faith and hope among the brethren in INC, whether you are a silent observer or critique will never deny you of its unspeakable actions. Whose throng of membership do its worship services on the allotted worship days? - none other than the members of the Church of Christ. 

Let alone the struggles or obstacles the pandemic situation is parading before these faithful servants - they've stood their ground. You can see them flocking wherever there is a house of worship (chapel), and not discounting the government's health protocols (yes, not only about social distancing but of wearing masks and faceshields, and registering via the contract tracing forms every time).

2020, indeed is not easy. And yet, INC members are thankful, grateful, and dedicated in following its devotion - holding up to its yearly Thanksgiving before the year-ends.

Behind those smiles and brightened faces, alight with hope and happiness - were trials and tribulations they overcame, or possibly still being experienced. But those were not showstoppers in fulfilling their obligation. The show must go on - driven with love, driven with faith, driven with hope.

All for the glory of the Almighty God.

Happy Thanksgiving, brethren.

~billymacdeus

Caffeine Guide: For Newbies and Coffee Enthusiasts

 

Most friends of mine are coffee drinkers, and even myself...  it's part of the daily routine, coffee intake, and talks over cuppah coffee.

Here's a quick and definitive guide about caffeine... ranging from commercialized sodas, energy boosters and even coffee shops like starbucks.

PS: it's amazing to know that even Monster energy drink contains caffeine, no wonder!

~ billymacdeus

Airpods Pro - I caved In (delayed post)

 

Last October 2019, i posted a kind of pros and cons article if it's worth getting an Apple Airpods. (this was the blog i wrote back then: Airpods - Is It Worth To Grab One? )

Welp, it just occurred to me now, that it took me a year to decide - ha ha ha! Let's not go into the detail what pursued me to get one.

Three months ago - October this year, i finally caved in.

With my 3 mos using this little baby - i must say, am gonna rate it as 5 out of 5 stars.

These are the main drivers why i luvved it!

1. Seamless connection to my iPhone, Car Stereo, AppleWatch & my MBP

- no doubt, it's one of those domains that @Apple is good at, the tremendously flawless synching/talking/easyset-up between its platforms. And i'm just .... hands-down impressed to it.

2. Noise Cancellation and Transparency mode

- it's not fair to compare this because i never owned any high-end earphones or head-phones (ie) Beats or Bose, until this one came. But i'm really enjoying - pretty ecstatic always whenever i'm using this lil babe.

3. Wireless! period

- yeahhhh!!!! Gone are the days of the tangling wired earbuds. It has improved my productivity a whole lot.

____

Below's a shortclip of my self-vid while walking/jogging wearing the lil babe back in November 1, 2020.  Another cool thing? - it doesn't fall off easily despite the rigorous run or jog activities.

I even use this lately in my bike rides.

extra caution: make sure that you activate "transparency" mode while doing your physical activities (jogging, running, walking, biking, cycling, aerobics, etc).

How To Operate (excerpt from Apple.com)

take note: you can't adjust the volume by taps or press; instead, use Hey Siri commands.

Battery Info (excerpt from Apple.com)

batteries by default are consumable, take care of your gadget by keeping it learn when to charge together with your iphone dashboard/notif

I'm not really a huge Apple Fanboy, but in case you are also deciding to grab one, why don't you try the Airpods Max?

And to save you from googling, as of this time - these are the prices:

~billymacdeus

Back Packing Lifehack

 

Summer is just around the corner, Pinas-wise.

I would long for the December breeze again or the hanging Amihan, the soft-cold-nonbiting freeze it brings to the skin from the months of November to January - FebruaryISH...

Welp, sooner or later, we'll get to experience the summer months. And thinking way ahead for the hikers and mountain climbers and backpackers, here's a coolGuide to maximize your hiking gears.

Credits to r/coolguides in reddit.

~billymacdeus

The Figures of Speech

 

Tagging this along because it feels right to know the different figures of speech in the English language.

credits: r/coolguides

~billymacdeus

My Cycling Journey - Introduction

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(3 minute read)

Quick backgrounder 

A journey begins with the single step... that is, to put into action those things conceived by the mind. Allow me to share my personal experiences about my odyssey to biking in this time of pandemic.

Quick backgrounder, as a kid - i learnt to bike using a BMX for kiddos; and from there i guess, i was able to develop the muscle memory of riding a bicycle from then, moving forwards.

Fast forward year 2020, i looked back and tried to remember when's the last time i rode a bike?

I couldn't certainly answer... prolly back in high-school? College, nah; i was in a dorm and i normally walk to the college of engineering building or go back home using a public utility tricycle.

When i started working - i never had the chance to go biking - Sampaloc to Makati, to Ortigas, or to MOA were pure LRTs, MRTs, taxis and jeepneys.

Bikes were not common back in those era... prior to pandemic - at least in the environment where i was used to.

Now... amidst the time of pandemic - bicycles became "In"; it suddenly became a new normal for all walks of life; whether you are in the low class, middle or the richie rich folks.

What inspired me?

It most certainly is due to my exposure of the bikers i see whenever i do the walks and jogs, may it be along Daang Reyna or within Vermosa.

Aside from the visuals and social media fever that talks about biking, it is just downright appealing to bike (verb); yeah!!

And to add, whenever i see folks with those caps/helmets and the "feeling great" display of adrenaline rush as they traverse the downhill path, i felt obliged to feel envy, but to sort out, it was on the eagerness to try and experience the same.

The Execution

I have a friend at church and a stranger friend; that i got to alk to in my walks/jogs, intrinsically their perceptions and attitude towards biking influenced me to try.

So the canvassing and hunting of a bike led to visit multiple shops in Dasma and Silang (Bike Bike Bike, Tulang Bikes, and Bike Plus).

We tried our best to at least buy from out of the mall built-bike (stock) - but we never get to find a suitable frame for me.

I decided, i wanted no MTB - mountain bike (at this time) but instead the RB - road bike, it's a personal choice; the RB is more appealing to me esp the drop bar portion of it and the slender frame, not to mention the thin wheels. 

RB, unfortunately is not available based on my height... so i settled to a semi-hybrid one. I haven't been able to memorize the specs but will try to learn it prolly create a separate post about it.

Learning The Basics

Road Bikes (RBs) vs Mountain Bikes (MTBs)

I got to learn the basic difference of RB versus MTB; again, the basic... without actually trying to google and just hearing it said verbally by these friends of mine who bike and race.

What stuck in my mind - MTBs are used for trails, primarily; while RBs would be used for flat roads delivering speed and the picturesque of road races.

It got me fascinated, those with the drop bars (the curly bars i used to say) are for RBs while the MTBs would normally have

 the flat straight bar handle - which makes sense, giving a more relax posture when biking.

But then, it appeals to me that the posture of riding an RB, the aero-effect style of bowing down where the torso is horizontally parallel to the lever of the bike frame is way cool thanks the ordinary ones.

What's Next?

Edi wow! 

On a serious note, i guess, i will get to take time first in learning (there' a lot to know) while enjoying the exhilarating effect it brings as i devour the beautiful greens, the winds chasing my back or opposing my fronts, the foggy scents in an early morning ride, and possibly other indescribable feelings of riding a bike that i am yet to experience.

#RideSafe

~billymacdeus

Vermosa - Joggers, Walkers and Bikers' Lair As of November 2020

(one-minute read)

Tried creating this post to pay homage to Ayala Land because it has opened its doors to its jogging pathways and bike road trails in Vermosa Imus Cavite.

Welp, at least since or during the lockdowns of this year - 2020. In the last month, it has opened its arms wider because of the accessibility to its gorgeous views inside the Vermosa Township.

Back in the days when it was just Mcdo and Starbucks, until they paved ways for their trimmed and spacious paths for joggers and bikers/walkers alike, the Vermosa area is one quite easy on the eyes landscape - and to put more praises once it's fully developed.

Its accessibility along Daang Hari is definitely a plus - and i do hope it'll maintain the trafficless nature as it converge to bring people into its community.

Possibly (at present) - its magnetic appeal is the open air green scenery, the Vermosa Sportsclub --- semi-finished yet already taking earnestness to passers-by and, the dream-like-you-are-in-a-province set-up makes you forget that you've already walked more than 1 hour, like time flies without such a worry.

But i lament now, thinking of the future that there'd be soon to rise skycrapers and dwelling places of hard metal and glass making the green scenary contrasting already to a city life.

Again - industrialization will take over, and we can only do bits and pieces to collectively balance things out, for the sake of love to nature and the calmness it brings to our deepest of minds.

~billymacdeus

Lovefool By Two Colors

Nyahahaha! 'tis sums it all up. The grunge-like sound effects, like it gets real if you put your "spatial sounds" on with your airPods Pro.

The groovey yuey kinda sound - makes you feel like dancing like no one is watching. Had that episode earlier while doing my jogs in public earlier, lotsa onlookers / motorists were turning shoulders - or was it just part of the magic, listening to this.

Welp, since the rendition of The Cardigans back in the hip MTV-days, and back when Romeo & Juliet's soundtrack came into fruition through this LoveFool song, it has always been tagged with a special place in my heart, loving this song.

Now, that it got revived, it's quite a homage to more than a decade of unreleased euphoria it brought back then from The Cardigans- whilst Two Colors seem to create a more seducing effect just by singing out loud or singing it in the head while your headphones ON.

Enjoy!

~billymacdeus

'Di Nila Malilimutan Paano Mo Sila Trinato Sa Panahon Ng Covid-19

 
Time flies. We're on the 8th month of this pandemic since the outbreak in the Philippines. And truth be told, all storms will pass.

Was doing my scheduled "walk/jog" earlier, along the lush sidewalks of Daang Hari - Reyna in the south, it came rushing in me, as a part of meditative walk 'yung nakaraang mga buwan, mga araw na lumipas - mga interaksiyon ko sa iba't ibang tao - sa trabaho man or sa mga nakasalamuha ko as simple as the security guard/s manning the entrances of groceries or malls; mga simpleng convo with the cashiers, yung mga nagdedeliver ng tubig, and mostly - workmates at different levels, my weekly meetings with high school friends; not to mention, my own family.

I was weighing in... did i display a caring and civil act toward these people? May it be close at heart or simply.. people who are acquaintances, friends or even strangers I talked to over the phone/face to face mingling with them who are needing my help or intervention and vice versa - me asking for their help or in anyway checking-up on ém.

How was it? I asked myself...

Welp... i had my versions of bad days and good days. I couldn't quantify and present a data, it's more of a personal judgment - more of my conscience speaking... telling me that yeah - mostly were positive impact, and yet there were those instances where regrets and guilt would come haunting me before the i enter slumber because i felt, i've done something wrong to some, due to circumstances pushing my buttons to go awry.

The pandemic is far from over.

Each of us had their fair share of ups and downs. Some in the verge of giving up, some had the lux of happiness and satisfaction - whichever course the experience of this pandemic threw or still throwing at us... there is one glaring factor that will forever be imprinted to the hearts and minds of those whom we have interacted --- 'yung paano natin sila trinato sa panahon ng pandemya.

No, this isn't defense mechanism.

Maybe some would think i'm doing a cleansing act... or i'm trying to put someone in an implied spotlight out of wrongdoings... but in all honesty - nothing of those two matter. What matters really is my core being speaking sincerely how did i behave to others? I have it underscored because in the end, it will all boil down to how i made them feel. Was i an asshole or was i an altruistic human being ready to extend hands? Or share something - could be material things or the ever-precious "time"? 

A lot of other conscience-striking questions coming non-stop in the back of my head, while walking. Creating in me the conviction to strive to do better. And be kind as much as possible, whenever possible.

Yes, kindness is an art, it will never be lost. Because humankind, as long as there is something to endure upon, that hope for better days will always there to linger. 

-billymac

#originalContent

Batch 98 Nasan Ka Na?

Hey hey hey, wazzup madlang people,
Kamiy hinubog,
Ng aming mga magulang,
sa magandang Asal,
ika nga nang kasabihan,
Always make Your Parent's be Proud of you.
Sa elementarya,
Natuto Ng mga laro Ng lahi,
sungka,
piko,
siato,
patentero,
atbp.

Sa murang Edad nagkaCrush Kay klasmayte,
Nahihiya napipikon sa tukso Ng iba.
Pero Subalit
Datapwat,o kay saya Ng maging batang muli,
Pagtungtong sa highschool,
Dito nagsimula Ang lahat lahat,
Naririnig mo Ang mga ibat ibang kwento tungkol sa pagkatao nila
Kung saan sila nakatira,
at Paaralang pinagtapusan nila.
Batch98 batch 98 Batch98,
Iyong mga boys boot pagkaliliit
at pagkapayatpayat nila,
mga girls na sobra sobra sa Johnson cologne
at Johnson Baby powder,
Mga tawanan,
sa mga kalokohan at kapilyuhan ay kakaiba,
Ang Sarap sariwain
Ang mga Panahong Lumipas na di mapantayan
Ng ngayong Pandemya.

Batch 98 Batch98,
Ikay walang kapares sa tuwituwina.
Makabayan
Makatao
MakaDiyos
Maka-kalikasan.
Sa Graduation Day,
Dito mo makikita Ang kakaibang saya,
Maiiyak ka sa lungkot at saya,
Habang tinatawag Ang name mo Ng iyong adviser para sa Pagakyat sa Stage
sa pagkuha Ng Diploma.
Saksi Ng iyong Ama't Ina.
Speech Ng Valedictorian at Guest Speaker ay Kayganda,
Very Inspiring.
Kaya Naman Saludo ako sa Batch naito,
Break it down Jo,
After Ng Pagtatapos iyong iba nagtuloy tuloy sa kolehiyo,
Sa Baguio,
Sa Manila,
Sa La Union,
At sa Laoag.
Iyong Iba dito sa Dingras,
Iyong Iba Hindi na nagpatuloy sa kolehiyo,
dahil sa kailangan Ng salapi,
Iyong iba nagbantay Ng kapatid,
iyong iba nagwork sa Manila,
Abroad.

After 22 yrs
Eto Eto Eto haha
dobidobido bidobido dibido ha.
O kaysaya saya  nang ating Sine Ng Buhay,
Ng bawat Isa sa atin,
Kayat Naman
Nakakaproud maging part Ng Batch 98.
Karamihan may mga Pamilya at professional at mga Immigrant,
OFW..
At may mga sariling Bussiness Ang iba,..
Iyong ba tulad ko rin magsasaka,
at Public Servant.
Oh diba  Mapapawow ka sa Batch namin,
Kaya Naman kamiy Nagpapasalamat sa aming mga magagaling na teacher




~Konja (original content, freeverse)

Battles

when your feelings are numb,
and the heart is cold

when you feel like you're drowning,
in the oceans of mistakes;
the evil seems to never halt

like the perpetual darkness which you see deep below
i want you to struggle through the pain,
fight for your breath.

and when you're out in the open sand,
i'll call you a fighter
because you made it
through what seemed impossible.

and when you look back at it
tears might roll down,
but of the victory that you own.




Original content poetry by Meowter Space

Give Yourself a Fighting Chance

Baby steps no matter how little it may seem will help you get to your eventual destination. The choices you made today simply affects your future.



#FightDepression
#hopethisHelps
#tipsForLife



~billymacdeus

Getting Rich Is A Game

There are two types of riches... the material/non-material riches (fleeting) this world has to offer, and the eternal riches (incorruptible) one can conquer based on his faith or beliefs.

Anuman ang ninanais mong kamtin sa dalwa, the same set of rules apply. It's a never-ending level to strive in passing, learning, and failing until you breathe your last.

Nevertheless, enjoy the moment while you're at it. The competition is yourself - how you're good at it until you achieve the satisfaction that meets your criteria or when all is done and gone, will you be bestowed-upon the everlasting peace?


Your thoughts...?


~billymacdeus

Focus On YOU

Spotlights, limelights, sidelights, whatever light you're getting now... the magnifying glass won't change unless you do something about the subject.


Speaking from experience, we've come a time when quarantine life is ebbing amongst us, slowly embracing its effects and life changing domination.


Nosebleed?


Welp, siguro, i'll just ask a simple question that may resound to you dear reader, hopefully when you lie to bed tonight, when you introspect how far you've come along in this journey of lockdown.


What have you done para ma-improve ang sarili mo?







#tipsForLife
#lifehacks
#quarantinedTipsters
#hopethisHelps
#billymacDeusblog





~ billymacdeus

Why Stress and Passion Are Closely Related?

They say, “Working hard for something we don’t care about is called stress; working hard for something we love is passion.” This quote hits differently depending on where you are in life, but it resonates universally across generations—whether you’re Gen Z, Millennial, or Gen X. It’s a reminder that the effort we pour into our work feels vastly different depending on whether our hearts are in it.

For many of us, especially in today’s hustle culture, “working hard” has become a badge of honor. Laging “grind” mode, di ba? Whether it’s pulling all-nighters, juggling multiple gigs, or sacrificing weekends for deadlines, we’ve normalized the idea that productivity is king. But the real question is: Are you working hard because you love what you do, or are you just surviving? Kasi iba ang “I have to” sa “I want to.”

Stress is what happens when you’re grinding for something that doesn’t align with your values or interests. Imagine waking up every day dreading your tasks, feeling like you’re stuck in a loop of obligations. That’s the “work hard” that drains you. Para kang nagbubuhat ng mabigat na bagay araw-araw, pero walang sense of fulfillment. It’s exhausting not just physically, but emotionally and mentally. And let’s be honest, marami sa atin ang nakaka-relate dito.

But passion? Passion is different. Passion gives you energy instead of taking it away. Kahit pagod ka, there’s a sense of fulfillment because you know you’re working towards something meaningful. Whether it’s starting your own business, creating art, helping others, or pursuing a dream career, passion fuels you in a way that stress never can. Yung tipong kahit overtime ka na or wala kang tulog, okay lang kasi mahal mo ‘yung ginagawa mo. It’s not just work—it’s purpose.

Let’s break it down further. For Gen Z, passion often looks like pursuing creative endeavors, championing social causes, or exploring unconventional careers. You see it in young people turning hobbies into side hustles or using social media to amplify their voices. For Millennials, passion often intertwines with balancing responsibilities and personal growth. It’s about finding meaning in work while navigating adulthood. For Gen X, passion might mean revisiting old dreams or finding ways to leave a legacy. Across all generations, the common thread is this: When you love what you do, the hard work feels worth it.

But let’s not sugarcoat things. Following your passion isn’t always easy. It’s not as simple as quitting your job and suddenly living your dream life. May bills pa rin, may obligations, may reality check. Passion doesn’t mean there’s no stress at all. It means the stress has a purpose. It’s like climbing a mountain—mahirap, pero alam mong worth it pagdating mo sa tuktok. The journey itself becomes rewarding.

So how do we shift from stress to passion? Here are a few steps to consider:

1. Identify what matters to you. Ano ba talaga ang gusto mo? Sometimes, we’re so busy keeping up with expectations that we forget to ask ourselves what truly makes us happy.

2. Start small. You don’t have to overhaul your life overnight. Begin by carving out time for things you enjoy. Maybe it’s writing, painting, coding, or volunteering—whatever ignites that spark.

3. Align your work with your values. If you can’t change jobs immediately, find ways to bring your passion into your current role. Or, look for opportunities outside work that align with your interests.

4. Be patient. Pursuing your passion is a journey, not a race. May proseso ‘yan, and that’s okay.

5. Surround yourself with support. Find people who uplift and inspire you. Kung puro negativity ang paligid mo, mas mahirap mag-focus sa passion.

At the end of the day, life is too short to be stuck in something that only brings you stress. Hindi ka ginawa para lang mag-survive—you’re meant to thrive. So, ask yourself: Are you working hard for something you love, or are you just getting by? If it’s the latter, maybe it’s time to reevaluate and take steps toward what truly sets your soul on fire.

Remember, working hard is inevitable. But if you’re going to pour your energy into something, let it be something that lights you up. Passion, not stress, should be the driving force behind your hard work. Kasi sa totoo lang, mas masarap mapagod kapag mahal mo ang ginagawa mo.

~ billymacdeus

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Respect Other People's Way Of Thinking

(updated December 2024)

In life, we often hear phrases like, “We’re all unique,” or “Everyone thinks differently.” But how often do we truly respect other people’s way of thinking? Let’s face it: madalas, kapag hindi tugma sa pananaw natin ang isang bagay, our first instinct is to judge or dismiss it. Yet, the truth is, there are many ways to arrive at the same outcome. Just like how 6+3=9 is the same as 5+4=9, different paths can still lead to the same destination.

Think about this: how many times have you disagreed with a friend, a colleague, or even a family member because their approach to solving a problem was different from yours? Maybe you’re the type who likes to plan every detail, while your best friend prefers to “go with the flow.” Or perhaps you’re straightforward, but your coworker likes to analyze every angle before making a decision. Ang tendency natin minsan is to think, “Why can’t they just do it my way? Mas mabilis!” But here’s the catch: their way isn’t necessarily wrong. It’s just different. And that difference doesn’t make it any less valid.

For Gen Z and Millennials, this hits home because we’re living in an era of rapid change and diverse perspectives. Social media has amplified everyone’s voices, making it easier than ever to share opinions but also to clash over them. Whether it’s about politics, career choices, or how to live sustainably, it’s clear na ang daming iba’t ibang pananaw sa mundo. The question is: Are we listening to understand, or are we listening to argue?

Take problem-solving as an example. Imagine you’re in a group project—yes, the dreaded group project! One person wants to divide the tasks equally, while another suggests working together on every step. At first, this might lead to tension. But when you step back, you’ll realize that both approaches have merit. Dividing tasks ensures efficiency, while working together ensures consistency. When you combine these methods, you’re likely to produce the best results.

Now, apply this to real-life situations. Let’s say you and your sibling have different ways of managing money. You like to save meticulously, while they’re more about investing in opportunities. Instead of saying, “Ang gastos mo naman,” or “Ang kuripot mo kasi,” why not acknowledge that both strategies have their strengths? Saving builds security, while investing opens doors to growth. When you learn to respect and even integrate these approaches, you both win.

Even in deeper matters, like values or beliefs, the principle still applies. For instance, in Filipino culture, respecting elders (“utang na loob” or “paggalang”) is deeply ingrained. But modern perspectives, especially from Gen Zs, might lean towards questioning traditional norms to promote individuality and fairness. Instead of dismissing one as “old-fashioned” or the other as “rebellious,” what if we viewed these perspectives as complementary? Traditions can provide grounding, while modern thinking can drive progress. Magkasama silang pwedeng magtulungan.

But respecting other people’s way of thinking doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything. Hindi ibig sabihin nito na tanggapin mo na lang kahit mali. Respect means being open to understanding why someone thinks or acts a certain way, even if it’s different from what you’d do. It’s about empathy. Kapag nakita mo kung saan sila nanggagaling, mas madali mong maiintindihan na ang intention nila isn’t to oppose you but to offer another perspective.

Here’s a practical example that most of us can relate to: career paths. Some people thrive in a corporate setup, working a 9-to-5, climbing the ladder, and finding stability. Others choose the path of entrepreneurship, embracing the risks and rewards of building something from scratch. Then there are those who go the unconventional route, like freelancing or pursuing their passion projects. Sa mata ng iba, “playing it safe” ang corporate, “masyadong risky” ang entrepreneurship, at “impractical” ang passion projects. But who’s to say which path is better? Each one has its own challenges and rewards. What’s important is that the person walking the path feels fulfilled.

Respecting other people’s way of thinking also applies to how we handle conflicts. Instead of immediately reacting with, “That’s wrong,” try saying, “I see where you’re coming from, but here’s another way to look at it.” This simple shift in language can turn a heated debate into a meaningful conversation. Remember, it’s not about who’s right or wrong; it’s about finding common ground.

In the end, life isn’t a one-size-fits-all journey. Just because someone thinks differently doesn’t mean they’re against you. Instead of focusing on differences as barriers, let’s see them as bridges. After all, 6+3=9, and so does 5+4=9. Both are correct. Both matter. And both teach us that there’s more than one way to solve a problem, live a life, or make an impact.

So, the next time you encounter someone whose way of thinking challenges yours, take a step back and ask: “What can I learn from their perspective?” In doing so, you’re not just respecting their way of thinking—you’re growing in ways you never thought possible. And that, my friends, is the beauty of embracing diversity in thought.

~billymacdeus

Focus On Possibilities, Not Problems (3 Practical Tips)

(updated December 2024)

Zig Ziglar once said, “Focus on possibilities, not problems.” 

At first glance, it seems like a simple motivational line, but for Gen Z and Millennials living in a fast-paced, pressure-filled world, this quote can hit differently. Let’s be real: ang daming challenges ngayon — from global issues like climate change to personal struggles like family-personal relationship problems, mental health battles, or simply figuring out life. But what Ziglar is telling us is this: instead of dwelling on what’s wrong, let’s shift our energy toward what’s possible.

Take a moment and think about this: 

How many times have you let your worries stop you from moving forward? You’re scrolling through Instagram or TikTok, and suddenly, that wave of comparison hits. "They’re doing so much better than me," or "Wala pa akong nararating." It’s so easy to get stuck in the “problems” mindset. But here’s the thing: focusing on problems alone won’t change anything. Nakakaparalisa lang siya. 

What shall we focus on instead? Possibilities.

Possibilities are where hope, creativity, and action meet. They’re not about ignoring the problems—kasi let’s face it, problems are real and valid—but about choosing to see beyond them. When we focus on possibilities, we’re giving ourselves the permission to imagine solutions and take steps forward.

Take, for example, the rise of sustainable living. Climate change is one of the biggest “problems” our generation faces, and it can feel overwhelming. But look around: Gen Z and Millennials are leading the way in creating possibilities for a greener future. From small actions like using reusable straws and bags to big moves like innovating eco-friendly businesses and technologies, these efforts prove that when we focus on what can be done, change becomes possible.

Another example? Mental health advocacy. There’s no denying the problem of stigma around mental health, especially in Filipino culture, where seeking help is sometimes seen as a weakness. But look at what’s happening now: more people are openly talking about their struggles, creating safe spaces online, and even starting local initiatives like free counseling services. These aren’t just reactions to a problem—they’re possibilities turned into action.

On a personal level, let’s say you’re stuck in a job you don’t love, or maybe you feel lost about your career path. It’s easy to spiral into thoughts like, “Wala na akong magagawa” or “I’m just not good enough.” But what if you flip the script? Instead of focusing on the “problem” of being stuck, ask yourself: “What’s possible for me right now?” Maybe you can start learning a new skill online, connect with mentors, or even explore freelancing. The key is to see options instead of dead ends.

This mindset doesn’t mean dismissing challenges or pretending everything’s perfect. Instead, it’s about where you choose to focus your energy. Problema or posibilidad? (or to make it simpler - what will you choose : dwelling on the issue or opportunity in solving the problem), kasi kung tutuusin, parehong nandiyan ‘yan. It’s your perspective that makes all the difference.

So, how do you start focusing on possibilities? Here are three practical tips:

1. Reframe your thoughts. Instead of saying, “This is so hard,” try asking, “What can I learn from this?” Shifting your mindset from defeat to curiosity opens up new paths.

2. Surround yourself with doers. Be with people who inspire you and push you to dream bigger. Kung ang paligid mo ay puro reklamo lang, mahahawa ka. Choose to be around those who talk about ideas and solutions.

3. Take small steps. You don’t need to solve everything at once. Focus on one possible action you can take today, no matter how small. Small wins lead to big changes.

Zig Ziglar’s advice isn’t about denying reality. It’s about embracing the power of hope and action. As Gen Zs and Millennials, we have so much potential to make a difference—for ourselves and for others. So instead of letting problems define you, let possibilities guide you.

Always remember: bawat problema, may kalakip na oportunidad. The question is, are you ready to see it? Let’s stop obsessing over the barriers and start building the bridges. Focus on possibilities, not problems, because that’s where the magic happens.

~ billymacdeus

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